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Still_Waitiing (Bedford, Texas) asks:

I have been in a relationship for 2years now and even moved to the same city so we could be closer. Truman he says he loves me but he is not ready to get married yet so my question is should I wait and do you think he will ever marry me? Or do you think I am wasting my time?

Hello Still Waiting,

Something about your letter suggests to me that you are a sweetheart. Thank you for bringing that vibration into this space.

So sweetheart, I ask you this. What are you waiting for? Your life is happening right NOW. What you may have is a serious case of Future Think.

Future think is when we choose to avoid experiencing the moment by filling our minds with questions about the future. It’s like eating a sandwich and while you are chewing, wondering to yourself if you’ll enjoy desert.

I think the most important thing to consider is what you are experiencing NOW. Are you happy NOW? Is the relationship serving you NOW? Is the partnership serving you both NOW? If the answer is no, then what makes you think being married will change things. If the answer is no, it may serve you both to address how you are relating to one another NOW before marriage is even entertained.

If the answer is yes, then congratulations sister, you are happy! You are savoring the taste of a great sandwich in this glorious moment. Now imagine someone comes up to you while you are enjoying this amazing sandwich and tells you that in fact, it’s not a peanut butter and jelly sandwich like you thought it was, it’s actually just a butter and honey sandwich. I trust that you still would think the sandwich tastes good! You would trust what you are experiencing because you know what you like, regardless of what it's called.

Be willing to let go of your attachments to labels and enjoy what’s happening in your life. However, if you really would like to be married, and marriage is a beautiful thing when it’s beautiful :), then that requires being with someone that would like to be married too. The math is pretty simple here.

I suggest that you tune into the essence of Love and happiness and consider letting the shape of that energy show up however it shows up.

This is your life right now. Waiting is not necessarily living sweetheart.

Be good to yourself and the people in your world.

God bless,

Truman Romeo

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